life as a working mom

I’m not new to this whatsoever.  My daughter is 10 (and a half) months old and I officially went back to work back in January.  So, I’m definitely not new to being a working mom.

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What MacKenna’s doing many nights I come home.

However, I have a new job.  A job that is MUCH harder than my previous job.  I started as a working mom as an Assistant Physical Education teacher at a small private school.  My job involved some work, most of which could be done while I was at school, and I had a big chunk during my day where I could get it done.  I helped coach after school sports (soccer, basketball, and floor hockey), but it was only games with no practices outside of class.  It was an easy job, a job where I didn’t have to bring any work home with me.  A job where I could come home to my daughter, go for a run, and still feel like I had plenty of time to spend with my little family.

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But, my previous job was not my dream.  I was under paid and over qualified.  I knew I was a good teacher and just needed the perfect job to show what I was worth.  Luckily for me, I found that perfect job back in May.  I’m teaching a grade level that I love (8th grade) and I’m able to coach volleyball, my absolute favorite sport outside of running.  I have a supportive staff and administration, a coaching staff that is amazing, and students + athletes who are totally awesome (for the most part).  Plus, as a starting teacher in a very small school district, the pay is pretty good (especially compared to what I was making the past 2 years as an assistant).

Yet, this perfect job came with quite a price.  My time is stretched to the max.  I get to school at 7 AM, have a 20 minute lunch in which I supervise 8th graders, a 50 minute plan every day that goes by entirely too fast, leave at 3 to go to practice, and get home around 6 PM on the days we don’t have volleyball games.  Now that we are well into the volleyball season, game days are usually much longer.  Sometimes I’ll get home by 8 PM; most days I usually get home closer to 9.  Plus, working 30 minutes away from home doesn’t help.

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Every mom understands this:  multitasking.

I’m not trying to complain.  I absolutely LOVE my new job.  While I feel like I still suck at it (as most new teachers feel their first year), it’s a job I hope I can stay at for awhile because it truly is a perfect position for me.  But, it’s time consuming.  I hardly have enough time to get all my work done (for both school + volleyball) let alone time to spend with my almost 1 year old.

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It’s been a very hard month and it’s only getting harder.  Every second I get with MacKenna I am taking full advantage of.  She’s at this amazing age where she is soaking everything up like a sponge.  She learns something new every single day and is growing and developing like crazy.  In the past month, she has learned how to crawl, started pointing, poked out 1.5 teeth, pulled herself up, and continues to amaze me with all she is learning.  The worst part is not being able to be the one seeing these for the first time.  It’s usually a few days that I finally realize she’s doing something that the babysitter noticed days before.

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Such is life as a working mom.  I chose to work to help provide for my family so that we could live a more comfortable life.  A life where I can help pay for my child(ren)’s college tuitions, weddings, first cars, etc.  Will I regret missing these important milestones someday?  Possibly.  But, I know that I am spending as much quality time with her as I can get.  I’d like to think it’s the best of both worlds, although you better believe that if I had the chance, I’d be a stay at home mom in a heart beat.  But, for now, the little time with MacKenna I get is the best part of my day.

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How do you balance working and spending time with your kids?     

  • Hang in there, I’ve been there with the twins and going back full time. It’s tough but at least you are in a great job. I promise you won’t regret spending all free time with her. Add in time all three of you can do stuff (if you aren’t already). It’s hard juggling being a young working family but this time will pass quickly. Running and everything else will still be there when you have more time (breaks!). Take lots of video! I love going back and watching the angels as babies and toddlers. Oh and I promise, things do get much easier and less time consuming-both new job and baby. Enjoy!
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  • I have went back to work many times while leaving my babies at home and while it is hard, it is for the best for the most part. Congrats on your new job. I can tell you as someone who is only working part time, I am incredibly jealous of your job and would love to be in your shoes. Being a teacher/coach is a dream job for me and I bet you will be amazing. Take care and your daughter is ADORABLE!
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  • Congrats on your new job — sounds like it a perfect fit for you.

    Life as a working mom IS hard — but it does get easier as they get older. It’s much harder to leave your baby than it is to leave your screaming /tantruming/not listening 3-year old!!

    I do get a lot of kid time in on the weekends. My husband works on Saturdays and that is ‘our’ day together. Most weekends they drive me bananas, but I love every minute of it. And then I’m ready to go back to work on Monday!
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  • Rim

    Lots of support and virtual hugs, I just went back to work this Sunday after 8 months maternity leave and I know exactly what ur going through. I chose to go back to work to provide a bright future and to be a role model for my child.

  • Thank you for sharing your perspective. I already know that when I have kids, I will have to go back to work once maternity leave is over and while it will be hard, I know it can be done. Glad you can see the positive in everything :)
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  • Kelly

    Oh jeez, reading this brought tears to my eyes. I’ve just been offered a music position an hour from home in a pretty tough city. While I’m not new to going back to work after having kids (I went back to college full time when my other children were 2 1/2 and 9 months, and landed my first teaching job right after I graduated when they were 3 and 5), with this baby, it’s been different. Because of a layoff, I was able to stay home from the time I was 20 weeks pregnant, through the birth of my beautiful baby in November, until now. An entire year away from teaching, just spending time with my gorgeous babe. I know I’m so lucky to have had that chance to be there, but I HAVE to have a job, and the thought of me leaving her with somebody else all day is KILLING me. I realize that at 10 months, she’s a lot heartier than she would have been if I had to go back at 6 weeks, and I’m so grateful for my “extended maternity leave”, but still, it is stinking hard! You seem to be handling this VERY well, and I’m going to keep coming back here to remind myself that this isn’t the end of the world, and we’ll all get through it ;)

  • How do I balance work and home?

    In short, I don’t. It’s never balanced. It’s always more here and less there (the “here” and “there” is always shifting!) and I just soak up what I can, when I can.

    I hug and kiss the girls every chance I get.
    I tell them I love them all the time.
    I cry sometimes when dropping them off at school.
    I hate fighting with Linsey because we are ALWAYS on the go!!

    But I know that I am doing the absolute best I can and that has to be enough. It has to be.
    Hang in there. You’re doing great!
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